😜 Breaking patterns
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I read recently that by the time we are in our mid 30s, our responses to people and situations are more likely to be from our historic internal programming than from what is actually happening in front of us.
And it kind of blew my mind 🤯
If you think back to the last argument you had or the last time you felt annoyed or upset with someone…
Did it feel like you were responding to what they were saying?
Or were you simply just playing out a pattern that you have learned through hundreds if not thousands of repetitions from birth onwards?
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And this got me thinking about our limiting beliefs and why they can be so hard to break out of.
If our brains have learned a pathway or way of thinking through decades of repetition, it follows that this will be a really difficult thing to unlearn.
Like changing the path of a river that formed hundreds of years ago.
It’s not that it can’t be done, but it takes a lot of effort to divert the river in a different direction.
This is why mindset practice makes such a big difference…. And why it can feel so hard!
I wonder if this week you will be able to spot some of the patterns you have.
Some of the situations where you aren’t present to what’s happening, you are on autopilot.
Where a situation feels familiar, so your brain takes over, like ‘no thanks! I’ve got this, I know exactly what to do!’
Because here’s the thing about patterns – they leave us feeling really stuck.
Maybe a client says, “hey we need to talk” and immediately your brain jumps in: OH MY GOODNESS THEY’RE GOING TO FIRE YOU! 😱😱😱
And then suddenly you realize you missed everything they said after that because your body started to react as if you were being fired.
But all the client said was “can we shift the time of our next call as I have to leave early for the airport”.
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This week I would love you to notice the moments where you get that feeling that you know exactly what someone is going to say next, and you get the adrenaline hit of the crisis you’re imagining…. And then you realize they were saying something completely different.
Because the antidote to getting stuck in our patterns is really simple.
Get present to what is actually happening and untrain your learned response.
A great question to ask yourself is -> “Wait, why did I just do/say/think that??” 😂😂
The first step is realizing that we have these patterns, and then the next step is deciding what we will do instead.
I’d love to hear how you get on!
Have a great week
Jessica x
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